Monday, May 11, 2015
Basically I don't consider myself a mother. At least not in the regular sense of the word. On June 12, 1987 I became the stepmother to 3 children that I really didn't know. Tom had custody of his son and the two girls lived with their mother in Florida. I didn't even meet them until after we were married.
Then on Feb. 12, 1987 I became a mother. I gave birth to Daniel. But as time progressed that didn't take on the normal mother aspect either. Daniel had Fragile X syndrome and was not going to be a "normal" person. He was going to school at about 2 and he moved into a group home at 5.5.
I was sad about all of this and the fact that Daniel wouldn't be calling and that my step children probably wouldn't call either. (I was really hoping they would)Then Tom got a text from his daughter Rachael and she said to tell me Happy Mother's Day. His other daughter, Mary, wrote a Mother's Day post on our family Facebook page, and later that night Tony sent me a text saying Happy Mother's Day.
This all totally changed my attitude and made my day. I even felt guilty for feeling so bad. God really works in mysterious ways and is aware of us. Even me.
PS. Over the years my relationship with my step children has gotten better. I think as each of us has grown and matured we have come to realize that we are important in each others lives. I even feel more like they are my children. I wish that I had given birth to them.
Wednesday, May 6, 2015
I didn't get to as many blogs as I would have liked to. Seeing that big list was so overwhelming. However, I did visit everyone who came to me.
This ended up being a great eye opening experience for me. For my theme I did character qualities that are good to have. I came to the realization that I am not as willing as I should be. (that was my w word). I really need to be more willing to do what it takes to achieve something.
While doing this challenge, I reached my 400th post. I can't believe I have done that much.
Thanks to all of those who came by and commented. This was a fun experience and I look forward to doing it next year.
Thursday, April 30, 2015
Wednesday, April 29, 2015
Tuesday, April 28, 2015
After a few weeks it was apparent that something wasn't quite right. Many months and doctor visits later, we were told that Daniel had Fragile X syndrome. Upon further testing it was determined that I was a carrier. However, later testing showed me that I have the full mutation of the gene so in a sense I have it too. There are ways that I am effected by it. So, to make a long story short, dealing with my son and dealing with my issues, has really turned me into a better person and has truly made me stronger. As much as I would like all of this Fragile X stuff to go away, I wouldn't want to give it back for all the things I have learned from it. I guess God gave me Fragile X as a vehicle to make me more like him. I hope I have meet the challenge.