Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Wanted: Kindred Spirit

This is something that has been eating at me for several days. I really want a friend; a kindred spirit if you will. Now, before anybody gets mad, I am not saying that I don't love all the friends I do have, I mean I want a true friend who is nearby. Someone I can go places with, have heart to hearts with etc. Most of the people that I know, don't live by me. Denise(high school friend) lives in Alabama, Beth(high school friend )lives in Texas. Jill, Robin and my mom live in Fresno, 31/2 hours away. All of Tom's family live in Utah or Idaho. Are you all getting the picture? Could somebody move or could somebody new come along?
Anyway. about a year or so ago this older lady (about 15 years older) started to befriend me. I was so excited. She was nice, fun to talk to, liked dolls etc. We were really hitting it off. Then I heard rumours that she was she being my friend because my husband was the Bishop and she wanted to be the Relief Society President. So, she was just being my friend to get to my husband. She really doesn't know me or my husband. Shortly there after, the friendship just stopped. I never said a word to her. That really crushed me but if that is why she wanted to be my friend then it is better that I don't have one.
However, the ache is still in my heart for a true friend. I hope and pray that one will come along sometime.
So, all interested parties, please apply by commenting. Ha Ha. (I really hope no one takes this post the wrong way. I love all who read this and comment. I love all my on-line friends.


Grandma Honey said...

I hope that wasn't that friend you brought here. She seemed so nice.

See Mom Smile said...

I think it is harder the older we get to make friends that become kindred spirits. Besides the girls I grew up with, I have made ONE friend that is truly a kindred spirit AND lives near by. I don't know if it's something you can find but just have to leave yourself open too!

Anonymous said...

I was going to say I was thinking the same thing recently. I know lots of people but don't really have many good friends or people who I could call anytime and talk about anything or make last minute plans with. People will tell me they've been friends with someone forever or so and so is their best friend. It is something I've been praying about recently. Scott has two good friends he's had for a long time and both of them are now married but one gal is a lot younger than me and the other barely speaks English.

I used to have a prayer group and that was great but one gal was being abused by her husband so she went to shelter and then we lost our babysitter so we tried to just leave the kids in the next room while we met but one climbed up in the sink and got a knife right as a husband walked in the door so that was the end up that and then we all grew apart.

Now I go to different things and other people seem to be friends with everyone and make friends so easily and I think what on earth am I doing wrong. Anyway done with my vent.

I am a full service blog. I will even post a comment for you. This one was taken from an email a friend sent me. She was having trouble posting it here.

Teresa Wilkinson said...

Hello, I am from Vacaville,Ca I was raised in Bakersfield, CA 3.5 hours from Fresno, I assume you mean Fresno, CA are you in the Bay Area or possibly Sacramento area?

Anyway I am Teresa Wilkinson and I just came over from Lady Blogger Society Tea Party.

Have a great day!

leigh hewett said...

I had a similar experience after the birth of my first son. I was so lonesome for a good friend because my best friend moved to NY and I moved to a small town to start my family.

I prayed every night for a friend and not just a friend but a "soulmate". A year went by and then I noticed that I kept seeing an acquaintance everywhere I went. I would see her at the grocery store, Target, Sam's Club, The Mall. For weeks we would bump into each other and chat. We eventually exchanged numbers and we are now close friends. That was 4 years ago and we still are closer than ever.

The Lord will send someone to you. Keep your eyes open. Your next best friend could be standing behind you in line at the grocery store.

Tina L. Hook said...

I am coming over from the Lady Bloggers Tea Party.

I understand what you mean. Having just moved to a new part of the country in my 30's, making new friends is not so easy anymore.

AiringMyLaundry said...

For me it can be difficult making friends since we move every few years thanks to the military.

Thankfully I do feel like I've met some kindred spirits.

Unknown said...

It is amazing how many women feel the same way.
In my adult life, I have moved at least 20 times. Every one or two years or so and some of the moves were at least 1000 miles away. The older I get, the more I value my friendships and family relationships.
I find myself recently divorced, in a new career and in a new city and I am trying to meet new people. It is tough. But I realize that I am not always looking to reach out to others and tend to wait for them to reach out to me. I decided I am going to walk through my world with my eyes wide open and try to connect with many people. To touch their world or brighten their day. I guess I am trying to say that I feel like I've become like the Dead Sea... taking in and not giving out. Maybe you can relate. Find a person who may be feeling lonely or hurting or in need (volunteer at the hospital, nursing home, homeless shelter, animal shelter). Find a hobby and join a group of ladies with the same hobby. You have something to contribute to someone out there who is just as needy. If you focus on the needs of others, your needs often get met at the same time.